Ask yourself 20 Questions if you're in LOVE~

Is he the one? Here's ten questions to ask yourself to find out if he is truly the one or just one of many.

1. Is it love or infatuation?
There's nothing wrong with infatuation, except that it can be short lived. Ask yourself whether or not your feelings run deeper than passion and infatuation. If he's truly the one, you'll know it's love you feel in your heart.

2. Are there any deal breakers?
Are there any aspects to your relationship that are truly deal breakers? If so, make sure you're facing the situation, not pretending it will go away after you make the ultimate commitment.

3. Do you love him for the right reasons?
Love is a great reason to get married, but is this the reason you want to stay together? Make sure your intentions are clear. If the relationship is more about money, or you're on the rebound, it's time to rethink your approach.

4. Do you have a long term plan together?
Do you regularly talk about the future? If the relationship is meant to be, you should be openly discussing your finances, family, children, religion, etc. If these topics are not on the table, ask yourself why?

5. Can you live with his flaws?
Everyone has a few flaws, nobody is perfect. Make sure you're clear on the parts of his personality that bug you. Once you know the issues, ask yourself whether or not you can live with them for the rest of your life?

6. Does your mind drift to someone else?
In those moments when you're alone and your mind wanders, who do you think about? If it's him, then he's probably the one. If you're still thinking about a former flame or a new guy you just met, then ask yourself whether your current boyfriend is really the one for you?

7. Do you share the same values?
It's okay if your personalities are completely different. In fact, complimentary personalities can often be a better long term fit than two very similar people. However, you'll want to make sure you share the same underlying values around morals, family, and other deep rooted topics

8. How does he make you feel?
Do you feel like a better person or a worse person when you're around him? If he's truly the one, he should make you feel beautiful inside and out when you're together. If instead he makes you feel ugly, worthless, desperate, etc., then there's a problem

9. Does he put you first?
If each of you focuses on giving to the other 100% of the time then everyone is giving and everyone is getting. Does he think of you before his job, his buddies, his dog? You'll want to understand where you fit in his list of life priorities.

10. Do you want to spend the rest of your life with him?
The rest of your life can seem like a really long time. It will seem even longer if you marry the wrong person. Think about what it means to wake up alongside this man every morning. Does it put a smile on your face, or make you wonder who else is out there?

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Top 10: Signs You're In Love

You've dated your fair share of men / women and have always enjoyed keeping your options open , but lately , there's this one man / woman that has you wondering if he / she's "The one."

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Number 10

You've Forgotten Your Ex :

More often than not , a breakup is followed by a significant amount of time spent thinking about him/ her and wondering whether or not you guys made the right decision in going your seperate ways. Depending on how long the two of you were together , these doubts can resurface again and again. Ever since you met him/ her , however , the thought of getting back together with your ex is the furthest thing from your mind. Come to think of it , you barely recall what you found so great about your ex in the first place.

Number 9

You Can't Stop Thinking About Him / Her :

Instead , you are consumed by thoughts of him/ her . He / She just pops into your head for no apparent reason , and you wonder if he / she thinks of you half as much as you think of him / her. You wonder what he / she's up to and even consider calling him / her ( But refrain from doing so for fear of looking overeager ). But it gets worse. You're out with your friends and you see something in a shop window and think about how much he / she would like that particular item , or you notice a poster for a show that he / she would love , but normally wouldn't even have looked twice at it. If he / she's the last thing on your mind before you go to sleep and the first thing on your mind when you wake up -- and you've even dreamed of him / her on a couple of occasions -- then you don't really even need to read on to know if you're in love ( But should anyway , just to be sure ).

Number 8

You Care About Him / Her :

There is a reason why you don't really want to know too much about the guy / chick you had a one - night stand with: you don't love him / her. When you're in love with a man / woman , you want to know all about him / her: who he / she is , what he / she thinks , what makes him / her laugh. You truly care about him / her and his / her feelings. If you truly love a man / woman , you feel bad if he / she had a bad day or is upset about something. You don't try to cheer him / her up because you have to , but because you can't help it.

Number 7

You Find His / Her Quirks Charming :

The fact that he / she carries his / her passport with him / her everywhere he / she goes -- just in case -- and that , when he / she's eating , he / she can't help but construct every forkful , so that it is the perfect blend of ingredients , fills you with an inexplicable feeling of happiness. He / She does and says things that make him / her different , and you like it. You can't quite put your finger on why , but it doesn't even matter. You like him / her just the way he / she is.

Number 6

You Have Great Chemistry :

You can't be in love with someone that you have no chemistry with. If you and him / her seem to always be on the same wavelength , and think in similar ways , that's a great sign. If you also generate enough heat to set off a five - alarm fire bell , then he / she is probably someone that you could fall in love with , if you aren't there already.

Number 5

You Don't Notice Other Men / Women As Much :

Although you can't help noticing a handsome man / a beautiful woman when one walks by , when you're in love , some of them tend to slip under the radar , while others just pale in comparison to him / her. Furthermore , you don't seem to be flirting half as much as you used to. You are slowly realizing that he / she's often the only man / woman in the room that matters , and , for some reason , that suits you just fine.

Number 4

You Love Spending Time With Him / Her :

This one is pretty obvious but important nonetheless. You look forward to seeing him / her , and don't care much about what the two of you will be doing. Lately , just going for a walk with him / her sounds like the best way you could possibly spend an evening. Furthermore , when you're not together , you miss him / her and wish you were.

Number 3

You Don't Mind Compromising Sometimes :

There was a time when it was your way or the highway , but , with him / her it's different. Not that he / she asks you to , but you don't mind missing a night out with the guys / girls to be with him / her. And you find yourself trying to incorporate him / her into your plans or altering them to accomodate him / her. You also find yourself not putting up a fight when he / she wants to go to Shakespeare in the Park. Although your friends find this very amusing , you know that deep down , they wish that they had found a love like yours.

Number 2

Other Priorities Take A Backseat :

You used to train religiously , but lately , if he / she's free for dinner , you don't mind missing a workout. Not only that , but your workaholic tendency of bringing home your work on weekends to get ahead seems a bit excessive to you as of late. Your ever - important "To - do" list seems quite stagnant these days , as being with him / her always manages to render your other plans and obligations obsolete. What was it that you absolutely had to do by four o'clock again ?

Number 1

You Start Thinking About The Future And He / She's In It :

It used to be that the future with a man / woman meant your date on Saturday night , but , with this man / woman , the future seems infinite. Not only do you plan to see him / her this weekend , but you want to see him / her a year from now as well. When planning your next vacation , you know you want to spend it with him / her , and not a random beach bunny you happen to meet while you're there. And when you get an invitation to a wedding in three months from now , you ask him / her to be your date , without thinking that it's too far away to tell if you'll still be together.